Teaching Our Children To Have A Healthy View Of Sex

Mother and daughter deliberating on sexual issues/theconversation.com

  Sexual matters among the children is one topic that involves a whole lot of tactics to safely have it passed to the minors without creating uneasiness along the way. So many factors such as their age and mental dispositions are usually considered before moving on to the dreaded topic.

 Firstly it begins with naming parts of the body and as parents, when it gets to mentioning their private parts, we either skip them or give it one name or the other based on their age, probably around 8-10years as suggested by sex experts, but as time goes on the explanations gets clearer with much details being added.

 At this very point, some parents has been found to shy away and leave it up to the kids to learn from the society because for certain, they must come across the topic and show some levels of interests because it's natural.

 Some parents can't just handle it not that they can't but they can't just imagine themselves, mostly a mother having to sit down with her growing daughter and start discussing sex with her and how it functions with all the often unhealthy and dirty tricks that leads to actually getting involved in sex and the reasons for having sex.

Let truth be told, the topic of sex has never been a clean one no matter how it's painted because of how long it has been misused with all the dirty stories associated with it. It's just like the very mentioning of gun which usually bring up fears because of how it has been misused throughout man's history.

But no matter how dirty or shameful to talk about, the issues of sex has to be discussed with the children by their parents so that they can grow up with healthy attitudes to it instead of leaving it for them to giggle about with their friends at school.

Sex is not dirty we have to know, the only dirty thing about it is the overall unhealthy attitudes towards it and nothing more!.

Help the minors to have a healthy view of sex/focusonthefamily.com

 Animals have sex and they don't look at it as something dirty/shameful but as a way of life and that's why they can do it in your very face without an atom of shame even as the animals that they are.

 If in doubt, look at the dogs for instance, I mean the locally trained ones that are often known to steal meats and other things not given to them.

They usually steal their ways to do those bad things such taking meats, eating chickens alive and doing other things like that but they don't feel an ounce of shame when it comes to mating.....sorry for that fluff but it did served a purpose here any way.

So sex is not dirty and the parents need to have such views in order to be able to explain it in a healthy and clean ways to their young ones.

When you are comfortable with the issues about sex as a parent it then becomes easy to explain it to the young minds without unnecessarily arousing their interests towards it wrongly.

 Sounding a little bit firm here, many parents stole their ways into sex and may have continued cheating on their partners thus making the discussing of it with their children a bit messy because of their own dirty behaviors. We are simply leaving that for those indicted to handle in their own best ways.

Facts About Sex And The Way To Have It Discussed With The Children

We has to be firm with the topic about sex and help our children to be equipped with the right knowledge about it for their own benefits more especially these days that untold number of STDs are associated with its misuse in additions to stepping on God's clear directives on sex.

The more our children know about sex, the more it would be easy to discuss it with them, and the more they will find it easy to say no to it if tempted to engage in the act prematurely or to show some concerns for their partner's feelings.

We all know that it's never an easy subject to discuss with the kids, but if not for any other thing, at least some measure of respects is to be accorded to the topic and handled with enough care at the same time.

As a way of helping the parents to have this done without much hitch ups, let's consider other topics that are usually discussed as a family such as drugs, smoking, and school.

 As these topics are discussed as a family, no doubt many aspects and sometimes strong and dirty side effects are mentioned thereby assisting the kids to make a healthy choice and matured decisions for themselves whenever they are exposed to the real situations.

Encourage your minors to speak their mind/theindusparent.com

 Likewise if sex education is handled in such ways and not just to give the children the weak options of either saying no or insisting on the use of condoms, much good would be achieved.

The fact still remains that many proponents of sex are everywhere with the impressions that sex is good and healthy to the body and also do go some steps further in acting pornographic movies to drive their points home.

We are aware of this also but there are other ways to counteract those wrong ideas and help the kids to say no and mean it with reasons.

Sex is good and a normal adult life but it doesn't mean that those not engaging in it are to be taken as mere kids that are not matured enough, no but it's a choice that has to do with emotions attached.

The children can be helped to understand that sex is a normal part of adult life with some complex emotions to go with it. It does a lot of good to help the kids to reason on the issues of emotions which sex is attached with. You can ask them how they would feel if their emotions are to be toyed with and again, what about the risks to their health?

When these bad side effects are carefully harnessed and aligned where they belong, the kids would be equipped with firm enough stands on what to do when sex is offered to them.

 Some people will tell you that there's nothing wrong with having sex prior to marriage but they also forget that there's nothing like casual sex because once in, you re' in, you could be longer than you would ever expect to be in it and those that has continued with it are no longer doing it casually because they are hooked and  may be finding very difficult to break free from the deadly habit.

 They usually continue to do what they started and by the time they eventually feel the needs to stop, much damages may have been done to their emotions and it's a scar that they has to carry for rest of their of life and too bad if some incurable STDs has exchanged hands or with pregnancies and illegitimate children to show for it.
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Facing the bombshell that you ve' got STDs/takepart.com

 So it does a lot of good not to change the topic whenever it comes up in your family discussion. Give it some needed treatments because you will be setting your kids up for a better life ahead by helping them to have first hand knowledge about sex from you as their trusted parents instead of allowing them to get them outside.

Never shy away from discussing sex matters because it's part of the training that we owe our children and they stand more chances at making informed decision about it because their trusted parents discussed it with them unlike what they would be told outside if it's left for the teachers alone or to giggle with their school mates.

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