Can Parents Truly Be The Best Friends Of Their Children?

Mother and her daughter posing as the best of friends / wrapy.net

As parents, we can be everything to our children but certainly not their best friends as some are often said to be, either to one or all of their children.
 This is one area that real truth has to be told instead of paying some lip-services to it.

  How can you be your child's best friend and at the same time a parent? For simplicity please choose one and I'll help you to choose rightly; You are a parent not a friend!.

 Many parents usually allow themselves to be carried away by mere emotional upsurge and irrationally terms or picks one of their children as their best friend when in reality there's nothing like that.
You love your children no doubt but even if you have only one child, no matter the level of the loving attachments you may have with the child, it never qualify him for a best friend.

Reasons Why You Can't Be Your Child's Best Friend

A friend is someone whom you has no reservations for and you can go to any length to tell them about your innermost feelings with the hopes that they would offer some needed assistance and much more.

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Your child can play some vital roles in your life likewise you as the parent without necessarily being regarded as best of friends.

 If any parent insist on having any of their children as a best friend, that child would be sure of missing out on what real friendships is all about because it doesn't work that way for many reasons.

Being the best friends of your children / thelittethingsilove.blogspot.com

 So if before now you ve' been bathing on the euphoria of having your parents as your best friends....talking to the children, or the other way rounds, now is the time to draw the lines and have your parents as what they are because they can't be your best friend and at the same time your parents.

The number one reason is that the children have got best friends already and doesn't need more, even the very ideas of having you there as a best friend sounds like mere jokes at best.

The whole issues here is just too natural and it's making it a bit difficult for me in getting around it any other ways than having it stated clearly that there's nothing like that.

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Let's look at it this way, suppose you got involved in some dirty act so to say and you owes it as a duty to let your best friend into it, how would you relate it to your child, let's say that you had an ugly past or did something that you feels like sharing with a best friend of yours, how comfortable will it be for you to relate it to your best friend who happens to be your child?

Or would you sidestep him or her and go to tell someone else who you considers to be more closer or better than your best friend?

Fighting your way into being the best friend to your children will make things difficult for both of because you are sure not going to be measuring up as best of friends in the real senses of it.

So what your child needs from you is to remain just that mother or father you are to him and nothing more while they make do with other best friends of choice out there.

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Playing friendship roles for your children is certain to get you lying and overlooking most of the important roles you are to play as parents.

 I have looked at it from various sides and found out that the only way of having your children as your best friend is on the lips not in practical terms.

One's children doesn't come close to being their best friend because no matter how lonely a parent could be, under normal circumstances it's impossible for any parent to reveal how depressed, lonely, or worried about life to a child because that is a heavy load to dump on the child which is capable of destabilizing the young man or woman.

From the above few lines, having your child as your best friend isn't just possible because it simply means placing too much loads on the child which would have him or her struggling to balance up while catering for other life's necessities.

 Let us get one basic fact correctly spelt out here and that is having a close relationship with your grown kids and sharing some important discussions with them on topics that is generally acceptable not some deep secrets that are often shared by best friends.

Your credibility as parent is always lost whenever your child needs one because you are busy playing the roles of friendship

Playing your roles as a parent should suffice / hechingerreport.org

 So in brief, having our parents as our best friends or vice avics is just mere feelings of humor to lighten up our moods as there are big differences to being friends than what is obtainable when it's said to be between children and their parents.

 It will be better said that parent/child relationship is worth more than any type of friendship come any day, but not with the sense of being real friends per say.

Not being a friend here doesn't mean being unfriendly to your children but to make sure of putting things in their right perspectives so as to avoid unnecessary confrontations from that child you made your equal all in the name of being his/her best friend.

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