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All in the names of friendships, some had unwittingly allowed their so-called friends to have them changed from whom they were to something else.
All for the sake of remaining and maintaining their friendships, some had been misled and turned another leave that is far from their original personality.
All in the name of being friends, some had allowed themselves to be subtly diverted from the types of father, mother, husband, wife, brother, sister, which there were once known and admired for to a total stranger at best.
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In all, friends can either make you or mar you and that is the reason why we have to be serious and make use of our minds and whatever we believe in when it comes to our choice of friends because friends are there to affect our personality.
Real and trusted friends are always ready to see how they could impact what is favorable and are selflessly generous without expecting anything in return because they both believe in themselves.
Real and trusted friends are always interested in each others welfare and take steps further in knowing how things are in each others families and business life, this they do because their friendships are deep rooted and not just entertainment joints friends as shown below.
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Real and trusted friends are those who constantly make time out of their busy schedule to check on each other and this they do irrespective of how tight things may be for them at times because they value their friendships more than every other things.
Real and trusted friends are always in support of each other in the right things and only disagrees on what they are not cleared about which is usually not in the public. They are very good at thrashing unnecessary arguments out for the sake of their unity. No wonder it's said that good friends is hard to find.
Type Of Friends To Avoid
Many would come as friends but they are not and should be avoided by all means, if not, a once good person will turn to a strange being over night. Here are the types of friends to keep away from.
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2. Bar and joints friends. These sets of friends would feed you to stupor and have you drink whatever you want in beer parlor but doesn't care whether there's food for your family at home or not
3. Friends who are only after your money with their only contributions being empty shouts of praises and constantly on the search for the next best joints in the area to drink and eat free foods
4. Parasite friends are to be avoided because they have nothing to offer instead they are ready to milk you dry and would be the first set of people to publicize how you spend money aimlessly
5. Trickish friends. By their fruits, you would recognize them. These friends are tricky just like Chameleon. You hardly know their true color until after much damage may have been done to your reputations and just like the biblical Judas, they pretend to be your best confidants and eat with you but unknown to you, your undies are being washed and spread in the public by no one else but them.
We need friends to survive and there is no doubt about it but we have to be selective because not all that pretend to be friends are true friends. When we find real friends, we enjoy the best life with them because real and trusted friends would be certain to bring out the best in us.
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So just like the vehicles, we are not to run away completely from others because of fears of being disappointed by them just as we cannot stop entering vehicles for fears of being killed in an accidents.
All we have to do is to take every necessary precautions and try our best to improve on the good qualities that we have because that would attract the right kind of friends to us while scaring away the wrong ones.
What Makes Real And Lasting Friendships
According to an online dictionary's definition, Friend is a person other than a family member, spouse or lover whose company one enjoys and towards whom one feels affection etc....With this as you can see, many types of friends could come from that definition but that's by the way.
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| The sign of real friendship/verywell.com |
*A true friend is loving all the time and is a brother born in times of distress
*A true friendship is ship that never fails because it is tied with love and affection
*A true friend is always like a brother or sister from another womb.
* Real friends just as the name implies are always held together and bind by a real and commendable course
There has been countless stories of bad things that happened to some people because of friendships related issues and so many other reasons why greater number of persons are of the opinions that people should be left on their own without friends, but even as audible as that may sound, real and lasting friendships are still a must and highly encouraged because we are better off as friends than enemies.
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Let people be to themselves whatever they feel is good for them but none can replace that real feelings of being and remaining friends with the right sets of people of like minds. As for me, I owe a lot in life to my wonderful friends out there most especially those I have real ethical ties with irrespective of their origin or whatsoever.
As for what makes real and lasting friend, the answer is simple = being and remaining true friend that you want the other person to be.
Below are those great and wonderful qualities that makes friendship stick:
Real and lasting friendship involves the acts of sharing
This is like the fuel that keep the fire burning and when I say sharing, it means practically any thing you can think of as long as it's ethically acceptable and when you share with a friend, it deepens your connections with each other. So as friends, you need to know each other inside out and should be able to defend one another come any day any time.
Real friends are good listeners
Listening here means more than just mere repetition of 'Oh Yes!', while nodding one's head like agama lizard, No!. Listening as trusted friend shows that you are interested in what the person is saying and show by enough empathy that his/her concerns matters to you. When you take active interests in what a friend is saying, it shows that hearing from him means a lot to you and come what may, someone can always look for a person that listens to him or her.
Less Judgemental
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When I say less judgemental, that goes with a reason because ordinarily a friend ought not to be even a bit judgemental but real and trusted friend can probe you at times whenever the need arises.
Friends can judge you because that's the right thing to do. As friends, you have the right to know what each other do, and as such, true friends reveals to themselves those little dirty secrets that they would never want any other person to know-but even at that, real and lasting friends feels free when with each other because they know that things would never get out of hand as long as they are for each other. Their backs are usually safe in other words.
Loyal
They are loyal to the core and are always ready to defend each other even in one's absent. They don't discuss each other with others even under any pressure. Real and lasting friends always stand up in defense of their friends any where.
Communicates Easily
They are always flowing when discussing matters that would ordinarily be very difficult for others that are not friends. They know the value of apology when they go wrong and also takes care to have things thrashed out properly instead of leaving it half solved for the sake of peace. They are honest with their feelings with each other and does not keep repeating matters that are long handled.
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| Real friendship last till old age |
Real and trusted friendship goes beyond what others should know apart from the friends themselves and that doesn't mean that they are in cult.
It makes a lot of difference to be friends and to have friends but one funny thing there, is that not all are friends for good reasons and so if you notices that your friendship is moving towards the wrong directions, don't keep quite! Speak up and if you are not being taken serious on what you know to be the best practice, take your leave and safe yourself from later blames.
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