Wickedness And Laziness - How Are They To Be Understood?

lazy-lion
How lazy is this wild cat?/lifehacker.com.au
Being wicked and being lazy are two different words that has spanned different definitions over time and has kept people at each others throats with various accusations on how and why we do things the way we do as individuals.

As humans created with various choices and interests, we are bound to do things our own ways and  believing it to be the best irrespective of how others may be looking at them and some times taking it down to how others do their own things.

For instance, some people are said to be wicked and others accused of being lazy just like the cats, but the most surprising aspects of them all is this:

 Among the various opinions of people against or over one another, none can categorically state at what extents the other is or may be in that which he is accused of.

 Greater number of the people simply base their judgements on hearsay without trying to see beyond the mere surfaces of the situations.

lazy cat
Is cat really lazy?/sarkology.net
 Put simply, people are justified on their own opinions over others and they are comfortable that way!

In view of this therefore, making some clarifying case for the two words under contention here is very important because of the extent that they had kept people and sometimes close friends/relatives at each others' displeasure when in reality the opposites might just be true with regards to their reasoning.

In order to get things stated very clear in this post, we are not disputing the facts that some persons are actually wicked or lazy but the fact remains that not all who are said to be wicked or lazy are really so, only that most of the accused persons may just be protecting their various interests which may be attracting eyebrows from others.

Wickedness And Laziness Defined

Wickedness is the state of being evilly inclined with some objectionable behaviors of all types while laziness denotes the act of being lazy, unwilling to do any work or make an effort.

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The short descriptions above is just what they are in a layman terms and which is generally understandable.

Wickedness is one vice which no right thinking person would want to be associated with and same thing goes with laziness but the only problem here is that too many are said to be either wicked or lazy and, sometimes an individual or group of persons are given the term.

 The question therefore is, are all who are accused of being either lazy or wicked really so and what genuine proves do we have to back up our claims?

What Some Term Laziness Or Wickedness

1. Laziness
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Lazy though achieving his aims/outlookmag.com

People have different gifts and aspirations which they put various levels of effort in order to make them work and have something reasonable to show for their efforts, but sometimes, the way they go about it may not be aggressive enough to get them what they want due to lack of some necessary drives and supports of various forms.

 Whenever this happens to an individual or group of persons, the onlookers are often in haste to term them as lazy persons because others who went into the same thing appears to be doing well and doesn't seem to be affected with what these other person are struggling with.

In situations like that, all you would be hearing from the people is how lazy they are and how wasteful the individual has become over time as they mercilessly compare them/him with some other persons who did or are doing the same thing with less stress.

bill gate
Bill Gate/quotesnice.com
For those who are fast to have some hasty judgements passed without minding the possible reasons why things were the way there are for some persons, they should try to consider some important facts, that each person or groups differs and are equipped with varying talents and aspirations.

 It becomes pretty difficult for such ones to know that in reality, we have just very few of those that are actually lazy but great many others who are forcefully engaged on things that are not their passions in life but were merely there due to conditions that they can't do much to change.

Time and again events has proven it to be wrong that not all that were taken to be lazy are actually lazy but those who are forced by conditions into what they are not passionate about.

 In other words, we do not really have much lazy people as most people believe, but many people who are engaged wrongly and expect to do their best at what they are not interested in.

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Some school children who were taken to be the worst of kids has actually grown up to become some notable personalities in areas that no one ever thought possible and so many others who were considered idiotic based on what others have in mind but who came up to prove them wrong when exposed to areas of interests.

2. Wickedness
armed robbers
Sets of young armed robbers arrested in Lagos/aderonkebamindele.com

The statement, you re' wicked or he is wicked is a common word that people find very easy to attribute to others due to what they perceived the individual or the groups to be doing wrongly and without fellow feelings.

For a fact, they are some outright wicked persons or groups who are bent on fomenting troubles for the innocent ones just for their selfish aims.

We have the armed robbers, as can be seen above, we have the envious persons who stops at nothing until they cause someone to cry and others who are not man or woman enough to manage the general challenges of life.

Such ones allow themselves into outright wickedness as a way of venting their anger back to the society for allowing some unwanted situations to prevail over them.
  But my take on that is this, they are just being immature to their own loss.

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What Doesn't Denote Wickedness

Then there are those who are said to be wicked simply for doing things their own ways and which they believed to be the right thing to have their own interest well protected.

There's this common saying that whenever a child starts to 'look for his own' he usually turn wicked in the eyes of the people. That sounds like a little guide into the type of wicked aspects that we want to unearth here.

A boss in the office may come up with some strict rules to have things done just the way he deems fit and which he believes to be what would move the company forward. Some or most of the staff may get the whole thing wrong and have him taken for a wicked boss because of his no nonsense approach to things.

An individual may be highly protective of his things and could be very strict with the ways he allows his belongings to be handled by others thus limiting who he gives and what he gives out at certain times that he wishes.

stingy man
stingy and wicked boss according to people/123rf.com
Some may take this to be too mean of him instead of allowing people free access to his belongings while enjoying only praises from the sugar coated-mouths, to this, some chooses to say no and have themselves branded as the worst enemy.

No doubt from the forgoing we have been able to see that not all that were termed to be wicked or lazy are actually so but mostly due to what other people may have in mind for addressing them as such. One thing is sure about each and everyone of us and that is the ability of easily ascribing some certain things to the other persons which are often not true.

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How To Avoid Imputing Wrong Motives To Others

1. Avoid hearsay and always try to keep away from the complainers or gossipers if you can't steer the conversation  easily to other less back-biting topics

2. Be firm with the people you have dealings with as that will make them to take you serious and know the extent to which you can go in discussing others with them. Doing this has some additional advantages, it leaves the people with nothing to say against you.

3. Avoid being too keen about what others may be saying in someone's absent and try your best not to get so pushy about the reasons why some people do what they do. If you want to know, then muster up the courage and confront the very person to clear your mind on whatever that may be or leave it for the wind.

4. Don't try to please everybody. When you try to please everyone, you end up being the talk of the town because you would have more than enough to handle in your hand thus making people to be saying different things behind your back and of which you may want to defend yourself when it gets to your hearing.

5. Friendship is another tricky ways in which some people often find themselves discussing others freely while believing what they say against someone to be true. Another thing that emboldens them to do that is the confidence that they are friends with the assurances that whatever they say will remain with them, but which is not always true.

Qualities That Will Help Us To Take People As They Are

Love. When we have the other person's interests at heart, the last thing that could come into our heart is to do or say anything that would hurt the person.

Genuineness. When we are sincerely genuine with ourselves and accords others some needed respects, we would desist from ascribing bad things to them.

Respect. When we know that our dignity is intact with us, we are free to go to any length in having our feelings made known in any given place of choice without fears of being disgraced or exposed.

In all, we just have to give to every persons their due respects and do all we can to desist from unnecessarily accusing our fellow but innocent others wrongly, instead remain focused on whatever  we are doing.

Many at times, those who are accused of being wicked or lazy may not be after all but could be as results of ordinary envies and some unfounded gossips.

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